# The Stoic Traveller


Travel has a funny way of reminding us that we're not actually in charge.

We can book the flight, reserve the hotel, plan the excursions and map out every restaurant we want to try. And then life looks at our itinerary and says, "That's adorable."

The flight is delayed.
The weather changes.
Traffic comes to a standstill.
The restaurant we were excited about is closed.
Occasionally, our luggage decides it deserves a holiday of its own or is filled with shampoo that has somehow busted through a few layers of armour.

This is where a little Stoicism can be surprisingly useful.

At its heart, Stoic philosophy encourages us to recognize the difference between what is within our influence and what isn't and to put our energy into our own choices, actions and responses.

Travel is practically a masterclass in this.

We don't get to choose the weather or the traffic. We can't make another person behave differently, and glaring at a departure board has yet to make a delayed plane leave any sooner.

Trust me. I've tested the theory.

What we do have is a choice about what happens next.

We can take a breath. Change the plan. Ask for help. Find another restaurant. Go for a walk. Laugh about the situation.

Sometimes the best response to a travel hiccup is simply, "Well… this wasn't on the itinerary."

## Maybe the detour is the point

Some of my favourite travel memories haven't come from the perfectly planned days.

They've come from the wrong turn that revealed a beautiful little neighbourhood, the restaurant someone insisted we try, the unexpected conversation that turned into a friendship, or the afternoon when our plans fell apart and we simply wandered.

That's one of the gifts of travel.

It teaches us that an experience doesn't have to unfold exactly as imagined to be wonderful.

## Save your energy for what matters

There is a certain freedom in realizing that not every inconvenience deserves our frustration.

We can prepare well. We can be thoughtful. We can leave enough time for the airport, check the weather and remember the sunscreen.

Then we have to let the rest unfold.

Worrying about something we cannot change doesn't give us more control. It simply steals some of the enjoyment from the moment we're actually living.

Isn't that precious energy better spent enjoying the view?

Or finding tacos?

Preferably both.

## A different question

Perhaps the real lesson is to stop asking:

"Why is this happening to me?"

and start asking:

"What can I do with what is happening?"

That little shift can change everything.

The unexpected becomes something to work with rather than something to fight. A disappointing moment becomes an opportunity to improvise. A change of plans can become the beginning of a story we never could have planned ourselves.

Is that not what travel is supposed to do?

Open us up.

**The Mindful Traveller thought:**

We don't control every road, delay, detour or person we encounter along the way.

But we do have a say in how we meet them.

So make the plans. Pack the bags. Book the table. Catch the flight.

When the journey throws you a curveball, take a breath before you react.

There may be nothing you can do about the situation but there may be plenty you can do with it.

Control what you can. Release what you can't, and leave a little room for the unexpected.

After all, the best travel stories rarely begin with:

"Everything went exactly according to plan."

Yours embracing the unexpected, Ms. Mindful Traveller

P.S. If a little everyday Stoicism sounds like a good travel companion, the book behind today's thought is {{< ref-link "everyday-stoic" "<em>The Everyday Stoic: Simple Rules for a Good Life</em> by William Mulligan" >}} — short, practical wisdom for exactly the moments travel loves to test.

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